Ask Deanna! Real People, Real Advice

Dear Deanna!

I’m stuck in a dead end relationship in a dead town. I just graduated from high school and I am dating an older man. I am feeling the urge to get away but I feel guilty. I want to achieve things, see other people and have a better life. He’s trying to brainwash me and make me think I’m dumb, and can’t make it without him. I want to get away but he has me limited because I can’t drive, have no skills and no friends. How do I make things happen for myself?

Anonymous On-line Reader

Dear Anonymous:

Your old man has watched his life pass by and he’s a loser and will pull you into the same hole. Your life is just beginning and you need to get some job skills, education and treat yourself to the finer things in life. You don’t need a man holding you down or telling you what you can’t do. You can do anything if you believe in yourself. When you get tired of your dead end situation, empty your bank account and take a leap of faith and just get up and leave.

Dear Deanna!

My girlfriend of two years destroyed me. I learned that the entire time we were dating she was seeing someone else. For a year she has been trying to pressure me into marriage but I wasn’t ready. She ended her relationship with me and a few weeks later announced she was getting married. I see the things she wanted and I’m willing to look like a fool to get her back. She tells me that I blew my chances. I feel desperate and want to know is there anything I can do to get her back?

Sean Memphis, TN

Dear Sean:

Instead of being a pathetic beggar open your eyes and see that your girlfriend was a cheating two-timer. She played games with two men and chose the one that would marry her. You can look like a fool if you want but if she cheated on you with another man once, she’ll do it again but next time things may be worse. You shouldn’t allow a woman to have this kind of power. Get yourself together, hold your head up and work through your pain and wait for the lady that’s meant for you.

Dear Deanna!

My best friend is in an abusive relationship. I see the bruises and hear the pain and torment in her voice. I want to help her but she always denies the problems. I saw her recently and one of her front teeth was gone. She claimed she had an accident on the stairs but I know otherwise. I’m ready to tell her family but I’m afraid because her father is crazy and may do something harmful. How can I help a friend in this horrible situation?

Worried Friend Milwaukee, WI

Dear Friend:

You need to tell your friends family as soon as you can. Yes, fathers go crazy and if a man is beating his daughter he needs to be dealt with. If something deadly happens to your friend you will have blood on your hands too because you knew and didn’t try to help. Give your friend some referrals to a few domestic abuse sources so she can recognize that this relationship isn’t healthy. In the meanwhile, join forces with the family and support and help her get out of this relationship before it’s too late.

Dear Deanna!

My relationship feels dead. In the beginning things were exciting but now everything is boring. I’m not motivated to do my hair anymore, I don’t feel like dressing up and sex is the last thing on my mind. Now that I look my worse, my boyfriend has become active, he goes out all the time and has really come out of his shell. He doesn’t pay me any attention and when he does, he seems to be somewhere else. Are these signs that we need to end this relationship?

Hurting and Confused Benton Harbor, MI

Dear Hurting:

You’re living the classic case that involves women let themselves go and then lose their man. You need to wake up and realize you look a mess and your boyfriend has chosen to keep living. He hasn’t changed other than the fact he may have another woman because he’s almost sick of you. If you want this relationship get your act together fast because he’s on his way out. The clock is ticking but you can turn things around with effort, and positive thinking.

Dear Deanna!

My son is dating a woman my age. The problem is the fact he’s a senior in high school and she is divorced with two small children. I understand my son is at the age where he may be experimenting sexually but he’s a baby compared to her and I don’t like it. I’m cordial to his girlfriend but I’m at my wits end. She is starting to brainwash him and I hit the roof when I heard she is bragging on his anatomy. What can I do without doing something that will land me in jail?

Tammy Dallas, TX

Dear Tammy:

Your son has fallen victim to a played out garden tool that doesn’t have many options left. You could kick her door off the hinges, drag your son out and give her a beat down. But since you have to be civil, you can stop this by pressing charges and filing a restraining order to keep her from your son. In the meanwhile, focus on your son and help him understand what’s going on. You also need to buckle down and help him clearly see his future that includes college and a career and not this woman with her built in baggage.

Dear Deanna!

For the first time in my life, I am happy with a man I feel is my soul mate. He is everything I imagined and I can even live with his flaws and shortcomings. I love him dearly but he is overly critical and is very hard on me. When I make mistakes he treats me like a child. He talks about my hair, my make-up and the way I eat. He is a great guy and I know he means well. How do I let him know how this makes me feel without jeopardizing the relationship?

Maria Charleston, SC

Dear Maria:

You’re a star struck groupie in this relationship. As soon as he gets tired, he’ll drop you like a hot coal and move on to another woman. If he sincerely cared there wouldn’t be any feelings of disrespect, ridicule or one-sided criticism. You need to take the risk and tell him how you feel and that you won’t tolerate his treatment. If he’s willing to heed your advice that’s a good thing. If he turns out to be a pig then realize he doesn’t give a damn and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!

My grandmother is embarrassing because she’s old and still trying to act young. It’s annoying to see my grandmother trying to sing rap songs, smoke cigarettes and wearing jeans. My parents don’t mind but I don’t think its right. I feel that she makes herself look foolish and she doesn’t realize that people are laughing at her. I would like a few suggestions on how I can have this discussion with my grandmother without appearing disrespectful?

Amber Oklahoma City, OK

Dear Amber:

Your grandmother is old enough to live her life without worrying about what you or anyone else thinks. You could learn things such self-confidence and the ability to love life from this woman. If she was smoking marijuana and dressing like a hoochie, you would have a legitimate problem. But since she’s enjoying life, you should relax, take her shopping and be blessed that you have a grandmother that’s on her feet and not deceased or in a nursing home.

Dear Deanna!

My daughter has left for college and made a mess out of her life. I took the time to help with student loans and scholarships and she has flunked out of the first semester. I learned that she never went to class and her school supplies haven’t been touched. To make matters worse, she’s now back at home pregnant and unemployed. I don’t have time for this and I’m tired of dealing with her drama. I know this is my daughter but what can I do to help without disrupting my life?

Glenda Birmingham, AL

Dear Glenda:

Your daughter’s bad life and mistakes are a reflection of your poor parenting skills. If you don’t have time for your daughter now, you probably didn’t have time when she was growing up and now she doesn’t know if she’s going or coming. You need to make time now because if you don’t you’ll be stuck with her longer than you think. Help her restore her options in life and encourage her to go back to school, get a job and find the baby’s father so she’ll have help.

Dear Deanna!

I recently gave birth to a baby girl. My boyfriend was hoping for a boy and he seemed disappointed. Things were fine until the baby was three months old. My boyfriend stopped coming around and when he did, he always seemed distant. I later learned that he has a new son that is a month older than my daughter. He cheated on me, got someone pregnant and we had our kids at the same time. I am devastated and don’t know what to do about this relationship?

Devastated New Mom Queens, NY

Dear Devastated:

Your first mistake is having a baby out of wedlock. Another mistake is a boyfriend that showed disappointment because of the baby’s gender. You can see in advance that if you stay with this man you’re going to have cheating, drama from another woman and a stressful relationship. It’s to your advantage to organize the child support payments and seek commitment. If he won’t do the right thing, kick him to the curb, raise your child and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!

I’m the only girl out of five boys in my family. I’m not the oldest but because my mom was a single parent, I had to grow up too fast and take care of my siblings. I’ve been on my own for two years and my mother won’t accept the fact that she can’t boss me around anymore. I don’t mind babysitting while she works but my life is my priority. We argue a lot because I won’t stay from work, skip college classes or give her money. How do I deal with this and hold on to respect?

Tired Daughter Columbia, SC

Dear Tired Daughter:

You’ve been a babysitter for so long that your mother feels the loss and the financial impact. Your mother spent so much time working and raising the kids she didn’t notice you growing up, developing your own personality and becoming a woman. She still views you as a child. Have a discussion with her as you help her begin to know you as an adult. Remind her the other kids will be grown soon as you offer to help when you can and when you can’t offer solutions that may help.

Dear Deanna!

My boyfriend gave me a fake purse for my birthday and I really liked a lot. My mind changed drastically when I found out he gave someone else a purse like it. However, the purse he gave to another girl was real and he spent a lot of money on it. Now I’m beginning to think that he cheats on me because I’ve noticed changes in his behavior, he disappears and acts funny. I guess he’s been doing this for a while but the purse made me notice.

Suspicious On-Line Reader

Dear Suspicious:

The moment you learned he gave another female a gift is the moment you should have got with the program. To make matters worse, he gave you the cheapie so that should tell you how he really feels about you. Its shameful that it took a material possession to reveal what you were too silly to see. All in all you came out on top. Look on the bright side and thank him for sparing you from a broken heart, looking like a fool and getting played like a sucker.

Dear Deanna!

My brother is dating a girl that is using him. She’s pretty and that’s why my brother runs after her like a sick dog. It really bothers me to see this. He acts as if he has to do everything for her, do what she says and can’t think for himself. I’ve seen her out with guys and she talks on the phone to several of my male friends but she claims it’s innocent. I don’t believe her especially after seeing her in the club with a guy. How do I expose her and her lies?

Temia Sacramento, CA

Dear Temia:

If your brother wants to be a mat that’s walked all over, there’s not much you can do to change it. Obviously he’s content being used and sharing his girlfriend. The best you can do is give him advice to be cautious, pay attention to the signs and be clear of his expectations in his relationship. If he chooses to ignore the words of wisdom, sit back and be ready to support him when she takes him to the cleaners, hurts him and bleeds him dry.

Dear Deanna!

My boyfriend claims he’s a confirmed bachelor and has no interest in being a one-woman man. I’m doing all that I can to please him but nothing seems to make him faithful. He hasn’t disrespected me to my face but I know he does things behind my back. I feel that he loves me because he always comes home. Is there anything else I can do to show him the benefit of being with only me?

Tara Durham, NC

Dear Tara:

You’re being used. If you have a man that won’t focus on you, then you need to decide what you want out of this relationship. You have the choice of playing house and cooking and cleaning until he moves on or you can raise your standards and do better. His bachelorhood claim is a sign of immaturity and being selfish. Regardless of coming home or not, you’re not the only woman and if he can’t make that his objective then you need to get rid of him and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!

My husband has children with another woman. While dating, they caused problems by telling lies, and other rude things orchestrated by their mother. I calmly worked through those issues and got over it. Now I’m pregnant and his teen daughter has shattered my marriage. She told her father that she heard me tell someone the child wasn’t his. My husband is acting distant and says things will be okay when the baby comes. How should I handle this situation?

Naomi Omaha, NE

Dear Naomi:

If you have a solid marriage and you haven’t cheated then you have nothing to worry about. Its best that you focus on having a healthy and safe pregnancy and deal with this issue after your delivery. However, after the baby arrives you need to handle your husband and let him know that you don’t appreciate his actions. He needs to stop playing games and he should be ashamed to believe a child over his wife with such a sensitive issue. His rotten children aren’t his fault but simply products of his ex-wife. Continue to ignore them and focus on your family.

Dear Deanna!

I’m a corporate executive dating a man that is an auto mechanic. Our careers don’t bother our relationship but he won’t support me when I ask him to attend my company events. I feel as if he’s ashamed to be seen among my peers. There are several others in my corporate circle that date men beneath them and it’s not a problem. Do you have any suggestions on how I can change his mind?

Anonymous On-line Readers

Dear Anonymous:

Things were going well until you claimed that your man was beneath you and you have friends with this same silly mindset. With such an insulting thought, you should be surprised this man is still with you. He knows this is what you think of him and he’s not willing to put himself in an uncomfortable position. However, he cares for you enough to look over it and focus on his career that he enjoys. A word to the wise, if it’s not broke, don’t try to fix it.

Dear Deanna!

I allowed a friend and her three small kids to move in with me. Her children are misbehaved, they lack manners and I feel like a hostage in my home. I stay in my room with the door locked because they are always asking questions, bothering me and they never sit down. I’ve discussed this with her and now I want to put them out. My walls are ruined, furniture dirty and I’m willing to toss our friendship behind this. Am I wrong?

Stressed Out On-line Reader

Dear Stressed:

The moment you began to feel like a hostage is when you should’ve given your friend and her three terrors the boot. You’re doing a favor and if she can’t tame her kids and let them know they’re not in a barn they need to go. Have a talk with your friend, point out the damages and if she’s willing to pay, give her another chance. The second chance should be temporary while she finds a place and the kids must behave. If she doesn’t comply open the door and tell her good-bye.

Dear Deanna!

I was an innocent victim when a fight started among my friends. I had nothing to do with it so after we went to court and everyone was convicted but me, I ended my friendship with everyone involved. They are now calling me a traitor and threatening me. They were all fighting over a boy and have criminal records. I’m tempted to become friends again just to get them off of my back but I don’t trust them. What should I do?

Pam St. Louis, MO

Dear Pam:

You learned a lesson quick after getting beat up behind an issue that wasn’t yours. You’re doing the right thing because you escaped trouble and jail once and its wise to cut your ties with your loser friends. You should stay clear of them because they will certainly set you up in order to get even. Don’t sacrifice yourself but instead find a new group of friends and give the old ones your backside to kiss and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!

I have a sister that is allowing her teen daughter to take birth control pills. I disagree with this because she is being encouraged to have sex at a young age. This is irresponsible and my sister needs to listen to me. Other family members are split on this issue but I refuse to back down. We are at the point where I’m thinking about getting child protective services or anyone else involved to get my niece removed from the home. Any suggestions I should take?

Myra Charlotte, NC

Dear Myra:

You need to mind your business and be glad that your sister is preventing teen pregnancy. Obviously your niece is hot in the pants and her mother is making her be responsible. You look like a fool right now because you don’t have a clue about what’s really going on other than rudely giving your opinions. Again, the best suggestion is to mind your own household and if your sister wants your two-bit advice or help, wait and let her ask for it.

Dear Deanna!

A good friend and I became lovers and our friendship was ruined in the process. I had high hopes that our friendship was strong enough to bear any storm. Before we started dating I was with someone else sexually. I became pregnant and thought I was certain who the father was. We were all shocked when the paternity test indicated a third man in my life. I am torn inside, have lost my best friend and become a single parent. How can I at least get my friendship back?

Tammie Richmond, VA

Dear Tammie:

You have made a mess of your life and blazed a trail of destruction. You should be embarrassed and ashamed of yourself with your recreational sex and loose morals. Your friendship was lost the moment you became intimate and completely killed with your pregnancy. Right now your focus is required to raise your child and get yourself together. If your friendship is meant to be then your pal will return. If not, learn from your silly mistakes, grow up and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!

My mother and I argue because she tries to tell me how to raise my kids. I’m not strict but I discipline when necessary by spanking or putting my kids on punishment. I was raised with church being crammed down my throat, curfews all over the place and rules on top of rules. My children are teens and I don’t mind if they drink, they’ve been taught about safe sex and they know the basic rules of life. Is it wrong to tell my mom to mind her business?

Mom with a Problem On-line reader

Dear Mom:

You’re stuck on stupid and need your head flushed out with a water hose. You’re building a road map for your children leading to jail, unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Your parenting skills aren’t cute and you should be glad to have a mother interested in helping you have good responsible children. It’s to your advantage to wise up, listen to your mom and perhaps take a few suggestions here and there. Love your kids enough to lay down your guard, invite your mother in and build a better bridge so your children will stay on the right track of life.

Dear Deanna!

My mom and dad divorced and I feel everything was my mothers fault. She argued at my dad all the time, accused him of things and never gave him room to breathe. As a result, he cheated, had an affair and left for another woman. My mother is now a nervous wreck and she swears she didn’t see it coming. I am in the middle of my two parents and don’t know what to do. I need to find peace in the middle but don’t know how.

Trina Atlanta, GA

Dear Trina:

You have two parents that you must love equally regardless of the decisions they make with each other. Its not your responsibility to judge or choose sides based upon their behavior. The only thing you can do is enjoy your time with each one, keep your personal opinions to yourself and don’t share business about their individual households. They divorced for reasons beyond your control and you shouldn’t feel guilty nor feel like a peacemaker.

Dear Deanna!

I'm having a challenge with my new girlfriend. She is adorable, nice and sweet but her hygiene and housekeeping habits are horrible. She can cook, but she leaves dishes in the kitchen for a week, never vacuums and her cat walks around the house. I always thought I could handle most things in this relationship but this is a bit much. We make love in a dirty bed, cat hair is everywhere and there’s never any clean dishes. How do I gently handle this issue?

Clean Man On-Line Reader

Dear Clean Man:

Your girlfriend is a slob and it’ll take an infection or food poisoning to get her to see the light. If you want to drink out of a dirty class and have cat hair in your throat hang in there with it. If this cramps your style, surprise your girlfriend with a few visits from a cleaning service and hope she gets the hint. If this doesn’t help then tell her to clean her house and keep it clean or you’re gone. If she chooses dirt over you, say goodbye and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!

My uncle is newly divorced and he’s driving me crazy. He always wants to go to the club, hang out and drink. I don’t mind going out with him every now and then but he comes over every day, eating dinner and begging me to go out. At first, my girlfriend was okay, but now she’s forcing me to turn him away, not take his phone calls and avoid him. He’s my favorite uncle and I don’t want to hurt him but I don’t want to hurt my girlfriend either. What do I do?

Nephew John Pasadena, CA

Dear Nephew John:

Apparently your uncle doesn’t know much about responsibility, thus his divorce. Although you have an obligation to put family first, you must never sacrifice your relationship for nonsense. Have a talk with your uncle and tell him that you want your relationship to work and you can only go out with him on a conservative basis. If he doesn’t understand then he’s selfish and deserves to go out alone.

Dear Deanna!

I have gained a lot of weight and I feel that my husband is falling out of love with me. He’s not intimate with me, we don’t cuddle and he always acts as if I’m annoying him. I am trying to diet but it is so stressful sitting by watching and feeling that I’m losing my husband. He claims that he still loves me but his actions are extremely different from the words he says. What can I do to recapture the fire and energy in my marriage?

Overweight Wife Toledo, OH

Dear Overweight:

If you’re having these feelings there’s no sense denying there’s some truth to what’s going on. The best way to tell if your husband is slipping is for you to lose weight. You need to be happy with good self-esteem. Once you get back into your zone, measure your husband’s activity and behavior towards you. If things don’t change, you have a problem that goes beyond weight. Be prepared for a discussion and seek honest answers regarding your relationship.

Dear Deanna!

My sister hates my boyfriend because she feels he doesn’t treat me right. My boyfriend doesn’t like her because he feels she is too nosey. They always argue, try to embarrass each other and do dirty things to each other. I’m at the breaking point after my sister stole a check from his checkbook and cashed it. On the other hand, my boyfriend told her boyfriend that she was cheating. Where do I draw the line with them before someone gets hurt?

Gina C. Charleston, SC

Dear Gina:

Almost like school kids you would think they have a crush on each other. You have to decide how much time you have to babysit while they play games. Take control of your relationship and put your sister in her place. Your boyfriend needs to know your expectations as you give him your verbal thoughts on dealing with your sister. If he doesn’t behave erase him and remember that boyfriends without rings come and go, but sisters are always around.

Dear Deanna!

I’m tired of my friends borrowing my clothes. I’ve just finished college and have a good job. The clothes I buy are for work because I have to be professional. My friends think things are still the same as college and high school. I feel they should find their own clothes for interviews and not borrow mine. I’m now being accused of being snobby and thinking I’m better than they are because I’m working. How to I get through to them and keep our friendship?

Working Girl Toledo, OH

Dear Working Girl:

You’re becoming mature and leaving your friends still in the arms of their teenage years. If you really want to help, tell them where you buy your clothes and get them connected to your shopping resources. Now that you’re in the workforce, you can coach them on finding employment and share your success story. This should provide motivation and continue your sisterhood of sharing. If they don’t respond, then hold your head high and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!

After a few years of dating I decided to leave a relationship and go back to an old one. This was a mistake. The woman I went to lied to me, has a crazy ex-husband and was pregnant when we got together. I left this relationship immediately and tried to go back to first woman. She has forgiven me but said she will only take me back after I have a DNA test. In the meanwhile, she said if she finds someone else, then it’s over. Am I wrong for still wanting her?

Brandon Omaha, NE

Dear Brandon:

You’re a selfish man living in your own fantasy world. You broke up with this woman for a reason and got more of the drama that caused you to leave in the first place. You’re lucky the first woman didn’t skin you like a cat. The universe has a way of righting itself so you shouldn’t be surprised if she decided to take the risk and move on without you. Regardless of the outcome of the DNA test, you should prepare yourself to be alone or look for another love.

Dear Deanna!

I’m a newlywed and now I realize that I don’t want to be married. I dated my boyfriend for 6 months and things were great. Now that we live together, I see things I don’t like, he’s not nice anymore and I feel stressed out. I wish things could be the same as when we were dating. Our intimacy is suffering and I don’t know what to do. How can I figure out what has happened and why this new marriage is so bad?

Married But Miserable Memphis, TN

Dear Miserable:

The marriage is fine other than the fact you got caught up after a short time and married someone you didn’t know well enough. The drama, stress and responsibility begin the day after the wedding. You now have to look at the good, the bills and the ugly which comes with the territory. Have a talk with your husband and share your fears and feelings. As a couple he’s there to help sort through things and get better adjusted to this new marriage.

Dear Deanna!

I have an issue with my loud neighbor. She is so rude and disrespectful and has no regards for the rest of us in the apartment complex. We’re forced to listen to her loud music, she has company coming in and out and her place is always one big party. Several of us have joined together asked her to tone it down but she laughs and says she can do as she pleases as long as she pays her rent. What other options do we have to deal with this headache?

Annoyed On-Line Reader

Dear Annoyed:

You can file a complaint and the first stop should be the on-site manager’s office. If this resource isn’t helpful then you should contact the management company. Yes, your neighbor pays rent but you pay as well and are entitled to a decent amount of peace and quiet. Once this is done, boundaries should be established. On another note, if she violates the noise ordinance after hours, you can call the police as a guarantee for a good nights sleep.

Dear Deanna!

I broke up with my boyfriend for another guy and now I realize this was a mistake. I had a good man and I should’ve listened to my family and friends as they told me I should’ve stayed with him. I was seeking thrills and excitement. This caused me to be abused, cheated on and we broke up anyway. I want to get my boyfriend back and I’m not sure what to do. I’ve apologized but nothing seems to work.

Heartbroken and Torn San Diego, CA

Dear Heartbroken:

The story never changes when one thinks the grass is greener on the other side. However, in your case, you had a crew telling you what to do but you chose not to listen. It serves you right and your ex-boyfriend shouldn’t have anything else to do with you. Your apology is nice but look at it from his side as you expect him to return after being with another man. Get over it, learn from your mistakes and if he comes back, fine and if not, keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!

I’m a bachelor that actively dates and I’m tired of women trying to change me. I go into relationships being honest and direct. After a while, these women want more than I’m willing to give. I don’t have any problems with this but it makes me mad when they accuse me of leading them on, cheating and lying. It is what it is and I stay the same from the first date to the last. What can I do to protect myself from drama when these women want more from me?

Travis the Bachelor Houston, TX

Dear Bachelor:

You put yourself in this situation by playing the relationship game. If you don’t want them asking for more then you need to stop acting like a boyfriend and treat these women as around the way girls. In other words, if you’re a recreational dater giving your body to all and heart to none, then let them know. Yes, tell them that you’re using them, you don’t want anything serious and you have more than one girlfriend. This will make your life easy and simple because once they hear the real truth, they’ll slam you and keep searching for a real man.

Dear Deanna!

I’m trying to get my life back on track. Whenever I start doing well, it seems like the devil gets in my way. I’m stressed right now because I’m doing things that I know aren’t right. I feel like I have demons inside of me because I always have evil thoughts and think negative about other people. I also have hatred in my heart towards other people but I can’t help it. How do I change my thoughts and my attitude?

Need Help Miami, FL

Dear Need Help:

You should celebrate the fact that you’re alive with health, strength and a sound mind. Get yourself to a pastor and a church and latch onto the Word and steadfast prayer to be released from the grip of evil. You can get yourself together by surrounding yourself with positive people and focus your mind on good things and personal goals. Seek professional help for what appears to be deep rooted issues that could stem from childhood. Once you’ve done these things read a few books on self-esteem to complete the circle of help and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!

I’m a Muslim in a relationship with a Christian who wants me to convert. He says there is no way it will work if we marry and have 2 different religions. I’ve never asked him to change but when I ask about marriage, he says that I’m pressuring him. We’re not ready for marriage, but it would feel good to know I’m viewed as his future wife instead of a college girlfriend. When I had a crisis and asked for prayer, his remarks were rude and alluded to my lack of believing Jesus is the Son of God. What he says is true but why can’t he chill and let things work?

Melancholy On-Line Reader

Dear Melancholy: